What happens when you don’t have influence with others? You speak: crickets. She speaks pretty much what you just said and all heads around you nod in agreement. You’re left wondering.
Wonder no more.
Influence yourself. Most likely you don’t believe in you. Why should anybody else? Impress yourself.
What attracts you about others?That’s a clue. You may lack it, so go get it. Do what would impress you. If you want to be a better writer, write until you read something of yours that makes you say, “I did that?!”
New game: respect yourself, impress yourself.